[Welcome to the Defense Series. The aim of this series is to help Christians more effectively “make a defense” (1 Pet. 3:15) to those who challenge the teachings and values of New Testament Christianity. My prayer is that the following words will help and embolden you as you stand for Truth.]
I’ve been hearing this argument against Christians a lot lately: “Why are you so against homosexuality when various heterosexual sins are much more prevalent? Isn’t it inconsistent to focus on this relatively small issue while turning a blind eye to divorce within the Church and ignoring other heterosexual sins?”
I must admit: this is an argument I would make if I were pro-homosexuality. It’s powerful! While it isn’t a defense of homosexuality, it takes a significant blow to Christendom today. And Christendom deserves it.
Before you answer the question, you need to give it a fair hearing. Ask yourself, “Am I guilty of this?” Do you avoid confronting heterosexual sins?
- To you, is divorce and remarriage ‘just one of those things that happens’?
- Do you pretend that the couple in their 2nd or 3rd marriage at church is okay with the Lord, when it is clear that they are in violation of Matthew 19:9?
- Do you no longer care about the number of live births to unmarried women (41% in 2010)?
- Do you not believe it is wrong to have sexual intercourse with anyone other than your spouse?
- Are you more outspoken about homosexuality than you are about heterosexual pre-marital sex?
- Do you have an addiction to pornography, or regularly violate Matthew 5:28?
You see, if you are furiously opposed to homosexual sins while winking at heterosexual sins, then you’re finished. This argument wins. Sit down and shut up. Case closed.
You have no right to come out guns-a-blazin’ (just a figure of speech, chill out) toward homosexuality if you aren’t vehemently opposed to all sexual sins. You need to take the log out of your eye first before you can take the speck out of someone else’s eye (Matt. 7:3-5).
Let’s get back to the original question. My reply is this: “Don’t lump me in with everyone else.” While denominational churches and other Christians (and pseudo-Christians) might be guilty of ignoring heterosexual sins, I’m not! I admit that many churches and ‘Christians’ have turned a blind eye to many sexual sins. They are wrong. But I am not associated with them.
I recognize that practicing homosexuals, and those who approve of homosexuality, cannot enter heaven (cf. Rom. 1:26-31; 1 Cor. 6:9-10; Jude 7). And I also recognize that anyone (including a heterosexual) who is in an unscriptural marriage (cf. Matt. 19:9; 1 Cor. 7:39; &c) or practicing any kind of sexual immorality (cf. Gal. 5:19-21) cannot enter heaven. Since I am indiscriminate in whom I think should go to heaven, I am also indiscriminate in my hatred of sin.
I know & teach that no one can willingly practice sin if they wish to be saved by God’s grace (Rom. 6:1). All sin, including the homosexual/heterosexual varieties, must be avoided. Only by “walking in the light” (1 John 1:7) and “walking according to the Spirit” (Rom. 8:1) can one be cleansed by the blood of Jesus. Obedience (not to be confused with ‘perfection’ or ‘works of merit’) is a prerequisite (Jas. 2:14-26) to benefiting from God’s Grace (Eph. 2:8-9).
Christians, do not be guilty of being against one sin while ignoring a host of others. The 1st century church had members who were guilty of both homosexual and heterosexual sins (cf. 1 Cor. 6:9-10), but they repented (v. 11). We must boldly and consistently teach that all sexual sin is an abuse of the body, which should be a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor. 6:18-20).
(Oh, and be sure you’re not “hating on” gays. Just hate the practice of homosexuality, as Jesus does. You love them, and want to bring them to heaven. Jesus loves them as much as He loves you (cf. Luke 19:10).)
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 Kinnaman, David, and Aly Hawkins. You lost me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church– And Rethinking Faith. Page 48. Grand Rapids, Mich.: BakerBooks, 2011.