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Thoughts On Discouragement, Mean People, And Wanting To Just Give Up

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sadrainIt’s easy to get discouraged by some of the things that go in our local congregations and in our brotherhood as a whole.

When you’ve been hurt or discouraged by someone, don’t associate the bad taste in your mouth with the Lord’s Church. Because in reality, the pure Bride of Christ is never discouraging – it’s the sin that’s present within the Lord’s Church that brings us down.

Redirect your depression, anger, and hurt feelings toward Satan. He’s the culprit. It’s all him.

If you’re like me, from time to time you get discouraged. Maybe somebody you respected said or did something that knocked the wind out of you. Maybe you feel like you’re not making an impact on the Church. Maybe you feel like you’re just wasting your time.

And when you’re discouraged, usually no one knows about it (except your spouse, if you’re married). But, again, if you’re like me, those are the times you most need the encouragement of others.

A Challenge

Next time you’re down, follow the Golden Rule (Matt. 7:12) and give encouragement to other Christians. That’s what you need from them, right?

Train yourself to build others up when you need to be encouraged yourself. After all, it is when you’re discouraged that you are most aware of the hurting and the pain going on around you.

Encourage Your Spiritual Giants

Who’s made the biggest spiritual impact in your life? Who do you most admire? That person is your spiritual giant. Now tell them that’s who they are to you. Let them know they are making a difference.

And don’t restrict yourself to only telling them how much you admire them. Brag on them to others!

Just because someone is spiritually strong doesn’t mean they never wrestle with discouragement. In fact, Satan is waging a tough war against them too, and from time to time they get burnt out, just like you. Your spiritual giants need you to encourage them!

Encourage People At Church

Satan loves discouraging us, and he uses it to fool us into withdrawing ourselves from the Church. Don’t fall into his trap; become an active encourager of the Lord’s body! In the words of Paul, “strive to excel in building up the church” (1 Cor. 14:12).

Talk to the people at church to whom you don’t normally talk. Express interest in their lives. Encourage them to be more faithful. Offer to help them. Send them a note in the mail.

Encourage Your Enemies

All of us know hurtful and discouraging people. Some are just downright mean!

Not to justify them, but there’s usually a reason mean people are mean.

And if you knew more about what they’ve been through, I guarantee you’d want to be nicer to them.

The Bible tells us how to treat our enemies:

If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink, for you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you. (Proverbs 25:22, ESV)

Our enemies get discouraged from time to time too, and how powerful would be for them to be encouraged by people they’ve hurt! 


So what’s stopping you? Drop a short note in the mail to someone today. Really, how much effort would it take?

What’s keeping you from sending your preacher an encouraging E-mail right now?

How hard would it be to send your elder, spiritual giant, or someone else at church a Facebook message letting them know you appreciate them? Why not send two or three Facebook messages while your at it?

What if everyone did this? What would the Church look like?

Alright, this has been my Monday ramble. Question: What are some ways we can encourage one another?

3 Responses to Thoughts On Discouragement, Mean People, And Wanting To Just Give Up

  1. julie July 25, 2013 at 1:14 PM #

    You are a spiritual giant to me:) THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO FOR THE KINGDOM!!!

  2. Trina E. Hager July 31, 2013 at 9:24 PM #

    Thanks for all your work with The Plain Simple Truth. I really enjoy reading them in my e-mails.May GOD bless you in all your endeavors for HIM.

  3. David Malley August 17, 2013 at 7:53 PM #

    Ben I don’t know you personally and I have only read a couple of articles but you hit it out of the park. This article in particular is something that has weighed on my heart for a long time and has become one of my “soapboxes.” I am a big believer in the fact that a constant need in the Lord’s church is encouragement. I have personally seen what kind of a difference it can make in a brother or sister’s life. As I like to tell others, keep up the GOD work! You ARE making a difference!

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